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Des and Brooks – Typical Doomed Relationship

I swore I’d never speak of The Bachelor(ette) again in writing, but I can’t resist. Someone drag my soapbox over here because I need to put all this poop in one generalized group and tell you what’s wrong with people in the dating pool.

  • People like Des want what they can’t have. The person they like doesn’t like them back, so to make up for it, they love harder. This makes them feel like they’re in love. What’s really happening is over-compensating. In Des’s case, this is compounded by feeling like she’s in a position of power. Don’t get me wrong, falling in love in like seven or nine weeks (or whatever the other sucker whose unrequited love for Des will send him on a spiral next week, and probably in real life as he watched how little she really cared said) is totally unrealistic. But I do think it’s possible in seven or nine weeks to know if you’re not the right fit. Hell, I think it’s possible to know in tow or three dates, honestly. If you don’t feel it you don’t feel it. Anyway, Brooks has always been unsure and distant, less emotionally attached than the others. And Des has always been drawn to this. Why? Who the hell knows, but I see it all the time.
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    Marriage: Finding A Family And Babies And A Real Life?

    OK, I’m not a fan of Kim Kardashian, but I also don’t hate her. Her voice annoys me, but otherwise, I’m neutral on the subject. Since there’s not much else going on in celebrity gossip these days, I have read a little about her marriage and divorce. I won’t speculate on whether the marriage was a sham, the divorce is a ratings grabber, or if the Kardashians are evil. I don’t really care. Hollywood is Hollywood. What irks me is part of Kim’s statement:

    “Everyone that knows me knows that I’m a hopeless romantic! I love with all of my heart and soul. I want a family and babies and a real life so badly that maybe I rushed in to something too soon. I believed in love and the dream of what I wanted so badly.”

    So, here’s the thing. I think lots of girls are searching for the “family and babies and a real life” when they get married. It floors me that Kim, as tight as she claims her family is, was searching for that. I’m not saying the statement was fabricated. I don’t care if it was. The thing is, THIS is why many people get married to the wrong person. Would I love to be married to an awesome dude who gets me, makes me laugh, and treats me great? Absolutely. Can I marry any schmuck on the street who shows interest and hope he becomes that person? No. But this is what many women (and even men) do. They’re trying to create something with the wrong ingredients. Can you make a cake if you don’t have flour or eggs or sugar? Probably not. Sure there are crappy vegan versions of cake that are OK. But if you want real cake, the moist kind grandma makes, then you can’t half-ass the recipe with substitutions for the key ingredients. Trust me, I’ve had those cakes. You’re better off with the real deal. Even if it means waiting two weeks (in marriage terms years and years) until you can find all of the perfect ingredients (in marriage terms, the right person).

    I don’t want to be eating crappy pseudo-cake the rest of my life. And I also don’t want to be married to the wrong man. Plus, really, I don’t even know Kris Humphries. Or whoever he is. But the very little I’ve seen of him, he’s been a douche. That’s like substituting salt for sugar in your cake. I’m surprised she lasted 72 days.

    Divorced? Blame Someone Else, Then Sue!

    Have you heard about this yahoo who’s blaming “The Marriage Ref” for his failed relationship? Classic. This is why the divorce rate is so high. He admits he and his wife (at the time) went on the show to air their relationship issues for a little cash and fame. Um, hello. Clearly the problem is with you, dude. I would never air any of my problems for the world just for a little money. And DEFINITELY not for fame. Especially anything marriage-related.

    And he says this caused his wife to become a fame whore.

    Newsflash, douchebag. She was always a fame whore, but never had the stage to let her whore flag fly! And you can’t tell me you didn’t know she was a fame whore. Let’s be real, people. We all know people who are strangely obessed with becoming famous. It’s normal for a 10 year old girl to want to be famous. But those dreams usually fade when the reality of life sets in. And you realize fame isn’t where it’s at. Friends, family, memories are the things you aim toward. Well, at least well adjusted people do. Some people crave the fame, even into their forties, apparently. Thank God these aren’t my parents.

    To these idiots, all I can say is, you valued fame over the sanctity of your marriage. And you reaped what you sowed. In other words, you deserved it. So shut the hell up!

    Dunn Lived a Risky Life

    I know what I’m getting ready to say is going to come across as harsh and insensitive. And maybe it is, although in my mind, I don’t intend it to be that way. A death, no matter what the circumstance, (including gang-on-gang deaths, which lots of people harshly (in my opinion) say the victim had coming) is sad. Someone has lost a child, sibling, best friend, hero, etc. So no matter who the person is, the circumstance of the death, etc. I feel for those who loved the person. And in this case, I feel for Ryan Dunn’s family. And intend no judgment of him, the way he lived his life or the way he died.

    But here’s my question. I haven’t seen a LOT of Jackass, but the episodes I did watch, it seemed like that group of guys lived on the edge. Testing their ability to out-gross, out-do, and out-man each other. So if someone has a personality like that, how is the death so shocking for his friends? I am NOT saying they shouldn’t be sad, but at some point, shouldn’t someone say, “This is the type of person he was. A risk-taker.” He was driving 140MPH. Surely they knew that’s how he drove that car.

    And please, be assured, I’m not saying they can’t be sad. They should be sad. Their friend is gone. And from many perspectives, the death was preventable (anytime speeding and alcohol is involved in a car accident, it’s hard to deny the accident could have likely been prevented).

    For some reason it blows my mind these other late thirties, early forties guys are looking beyond the cause of the accident and the way Dunn lived his life. I get he’s a great person. But at some point accept when you live life hard and take risks, eventually those risks are going to catch up. And that’s the lesson everyone should take away from this senseless death. Now his wife and child (children?) are without a husband/dad.

    But, with a risk-taking personally as Dunn’s seemed to be, could you really tell him he has to forgo all risks in the effort to avoid any harm? Someone who gets off on that risk doesn’t feel like he’s living without it. And what’s life if you don’t live?

    Update 6/29: I saw this article today where Bam finally admits 1. He predicted Dunn would eventually die from his driving (Dunn scared Bam, who lives for the same thrills – so that must be pretty scary). 2. He and Dunn got in an accident in that same spot. And 3. Dunn went for food, then took the long way back around to drop off Zach, probably so he could specifically speed down this stretch of road.  None of this makes the outcome any less sad. But it does make it predictable. He liked to drink. He liked to speed. And he had a history of wrecks (probaly even sober). It’s possible the accident would have happened even if he hadn’t been drinking, although drinking certainly didn’t help with his reaction time.

    If you watch the video, I’ll warn you Bam is either high on some type of downer pills or drunk. I have a hard time telling which. The way his hands are all heavy, and he keeps rubbing his head, I tend to think it’s something more than alcohol. It concerns me when he says that he has to have at least three drinks to feel “normal.” It always makes me sad when people resort to drugs and alcohol to cope with a death. Eventually you have to sober up and deal with the pain. I do understand how easy it is short-term to deal with it that way, but hopefully he’s finding someone (besides the press) he can talk to and work through his emotions.

    Mo Money, Mo Problems: The Royal Honeymoon

    I never really got caught up in “The Royal Wedding” or whatever it was called. I’m not big on weddings in general. I mean I go, and I like watching my friends commit to each other in a public forum. But let’s be real, I go for one thing: open bar. Well, and to hang out with family or friends. So I guess two things. But the biggest draw is the open bar. I always appreciate how much work went into planning and preparing for the day. Mostly because I’ve helped other brides do it. It’s a LOT of work. But I don’t really care what dress they chose, all brides look beautiful. And the colors escape me the day after the wedding. Or, you know, an hour into the open bar. I don’t notice flowers. The meal’s a nice post-bar perk, but really, I’d be just as happy with pizza or burgers. One of my happies receptions was one with a crockpot of queso and tortilla chips. No, really.

    So, I didn’t care what Kate was wearing, or her bridesmaids, or where the wedding was, or what food they were eating. And with that much hooplah, I imagine attending the wedding was more work than the free alcohol you’d get out of it. So when I saw the story saying the happy, royal couple was spending $720,000 on their honeymoon, I almost didn’t even read it.

    But I did. And at first I’m like, “That’s ridiculous. And their taxpayers are paying for this.” But, THEN I realized two things: 1. If it weren’t for the annoying taxpayers not giving them privacy, they probably woudln’t need such an extravagant trip to ensure privacy and 2. A “normal” couple thousand dollar honeymoon doesn’t cut it when you’re rich. The more you have, the more you spend.

    If I were a rich (wo)man….

    Selective Viewing: An Open Letter To MTV

    AN OPEN LETTER TO MTV:

    Attention MTV! Let me tell you the next big thing you need to do. Offer your reality shows with a filter. When you watch the show you can watch the whole thing. Or you can select to watch scenes minus the lame-ass stars who ruin the show. Yes, seriously. I know the show will be shorter. But you’d get back the audience (read: me) on shows like  Jersey Shore. I cannot, cannot, cannot, cannot bare to hear Sammi’s whiny voice or listen to another effed up fight with Ronnie. Cannot do it. Well, I mean, I can’t because I don’t want to punch a hole in my wall. Or my face. So I just don’t watch anymore.

    And you know what, MTV? I’m really an AVERAGE viewer. So if I’m giving up on the show because of one screwed up story line that you, for some god forsaken reason, can’t give up, then I’m sure there are millions other who have or will do the same. You can only do so much fast-forwarding. Especially on your buffer-sensitive viewer.

    Hey, just throwing it out there. You don’t even have to pay me to put this idea in place. And you know what else? I’d still sit through all of the commercials.

    Former Jersey Shore fan,
    Disenchanted Girl

    The Bachelor, After The Final Rose

    Alright, I’ll preface this by saying I only watch The Bachelor in passing because my friends watch it and it’s fun to have something to talk about. I think the whole show is a hoax. And I’ve been slacking this season watching because everything Brad says seems scripted, and he’s an awful actor. However, I forced myself to hunker down for the last two episodes because I also am known to buy a gossip mag or two. So here we are, watching the After The Final Rose show. Which usually is the best part of the show anyway.

    First of all Chantel (excuse me if I misspell anyone’s names)… Everyone’s giving her gruff for getting emotional even though she’s moved on and is happy. Here’s the problem, it’s embarrassing to get dumped on live TV. And more embarrassing to get played. She simply wanted Brad to tell her he had feelings for her. In a private setting, like most breakups, he would have. In this national audience setting where Brad seemed contractually bound to marrying the hell out of someone, he was smart enough to know he couldn’t do it. So he had to say he was falling for Emily the whole time, this sent her on an emotional, revisiting the humiliation tailspin, and when he called her out on crying, she cried more. I don’t think any of this is an abnormal reaction. No one likes to “not be good enough.”

    But Emily. Oh, Emily. First of all, I think Brad’s a total tool. And how anyone fell for him is beyond me. Sorry, Brad. I mean, I’m sure you have good characteristics and traits, but this whole show was so forced. You didn’t seem genuine. And those girls had to feel that. But Emily… I agree they made her come across as boring. Because in our warped little world, boring equals nice. And they wanted her to be the nice girl, while Chantel was the “wild” girl. It was like Vienna and Tinley from last season, only the bachelor picked “the other one” this time around.

    But I think I’m the only American who didn’t care for Emily. Not that I think she’s an awful person or anything like that. I think both are probably nice people. But I DO NOT see them as a fit. Emily clearly doesn’t trust Brad. And SHE needs to get counseling (if she’s not already) to deal with her grief. I think she’s done what’s common when someone dies, and building them up to be someone they weren’t. It’s common when someone dies to remember all the good things and forget all the bad, all the struggles, all the heartache. No relationship is perfect. And I think it’s a natural part of grief to put that loved one on a pedestal. But in this case, it’s keeping her from letting anyone else in. Which is also OK in this case, because I don’t think Brad’s right for her anyway. If she’s questioning this already, she should cut ties and move on.

    And the whole bring in the crew to salvage hope thing? Hilarious. VERY cult-like. I’ve read that ABC practically owns everyone who’s on their shows. And if they want to keep getting the job, H or B, under the table (or out in the open, I guess) they have to do what ABC wants them to do. I respect that, too.

    But what the rest of the world should realize is you can’t really save a relationship by sheer will. And no one’s a failure for realizing that outside of the picturesque dates where ANYONE would think they’re in love, it’s not what they thought it would be. It’s like they were on a huge honeymoon during those giddy first stages of meeting someone. Eventually it comes crashing down. And the crash is that much harder when 1. you were so high to begin with 2. you can’t see each other in person 3. all of your baggage comes out at once, and the whole world is watching, expecting.

    Overall, if Emily said, “I love you” in that condescending way one more time, I was going to reach through the screen and physically remover her from the couch. She’s obviously having a hard time getting over the “reality” of reality TV. And who she’s becoming because of the hurt of that realization isn’t good.

    That, coupled with their “anger issues” and having a child in the mix is scary. Well, that and Chris Harrison is a tool, too.