OK, let me preface this by saying I know the kid’s young. Probably only 18. I can barely remember 18, and it wasn’t THAT long ago. But I do know that regardless of his age, his parents are adults, and totally enabling Jo to be abusive. And these trends probably aren’t going to get any better. I mean, I know he could mature and all that. But his vindictive, controlling, angry temperament? I don’t think it’s going to improve.
And here’s what I don’t get. Why doesn’t MTV address this at the end of every episode? Why don’t they say that this is an abusive relationship and if your boyfriend’s treating you this way and don’t know how to get out (as Kailyn clearly doesn’t), what your options are. She’s staying in the same house as him and is his prisoner. He knew that and rested easy knowing she was within his grips. As she started dating other guys and gaining her own independence, he started to freak out. He calls her a slut all the time. I’m sorry, what? SHE’S the slut? Wasn’t your ding-a-ling involved in the knocking up? Get it together, bro. Be a man.
And he insults her, degrades her, controls her. He tells her she can’t date anyone else. He holds her prisoner in HIS PARENTS’ house. And it’s a nice house, so I have a hard time not categorizing this punk ass loser as a spoiled brat. But I believe that’s the issue. He’s coddled and over-indulged. Listen, Mom of Jo, tell him to respect women. Tell him to let the mother of his baby move on and be happy. And most of all, DO NOT act like you’re powerless to his actions, wants and tantrums. He’s in YOUR house. Kick his disrespectful, abusive ass out on the street if he can’t be a man.
Kailyn, you deserve so much better, girl. It appears you don’t realize it and feel like you have nowhere to go. Hopefully if your situation with your mom doesn’t work out (which I assume is much deeper of an issue than “we don’t get along”), I hope the people at MTV help you find low-income housing, women’s shelters, etc.
Oh, and take that lowlife of a baby daddy to court. Get child support instated, get a visitation schedule in place, and most of all, realize that you’re a good person, a good mom, and you deserve someone who respects you and loves you.
And MTV… I know you have no real concern in the whole deal, but you put this show out there as if you care about girls making better for themselves. Helping them to see being a teen mom isn’t glamorous. Aside from the fact that this show DOES make it look somwhat glamorous (Maci’s staying in a place I, as an MBA graduate couldn’t afford), at the very least take the time to say, “This situation isn’t healthy. This is abuse.” Teen girls don’t realize this is abuse. And it will only get worse. You don’t have to hit someone to abuse them. Controlling and yelling are also abuse. And often times result in physical violence. Communicate THAT!